Verbal Self Defense- What's your best defense?
Think about this. You are confronted by an individual. You get that gut feeling that something is about to go down. Your escape options are very limited. You need to say something to get out of the situation, or say something to distract your attacker just before you strike.
What would you say?
Be sure to state whether you are trying to avoid the attack, or if you are preparing to attack.
Here is your opportunity to contribute, or ask questions.
Sifu Crake
posted by Sifu Trey Crake @ 8:10 PM
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Firstly, I'd pretend to look scared. Whilst looking down at the ground, I'd then say "well..." Then suddenly I'd use an elbow to the face, a right hook to the face and follow it up with a push using 'Pi Quan' from my martial art 'Hsing-I'... then leg it!
Thanks, Will
One of the options is to say nothing. The silence would make your opponent feel uncomfortable and increase his anger. For sure he would charge at me. Then I would use some counterattack...
This is of course one of the options and the situations on the street are unpredictable...
This is purely speculation since i have never been in a fight or confrontation, but if someone is about to attack you, look over there shoulder like someone is behind then. Make it obvious so they see it, but make it look like you are being subtle. Even if they don't turn all the way around, if they are distracted for one second, it's over.
Certainly, pretending to be scared will help to bring your attacker's guard down, and cause them to gain confidence. Making them feel comfortable to close in on you.
I also agree that acting bizarre (if you can pull it off successfully) can work well. If you are so convincing that your attacker believes you are incapable of understanding what is going on, they are likey to leave you alone.
It is also likely that they will believe that you are crazy, therefore, unstable and unpredictable; not feeling comfortable or safe to continue teh assault
I'd get out of there!
Another good idea, is to simply ask them, "Hey, what's going on? I don't want any trouble. What do you want?"
The attacker knows what he wants. He might very well tell you up front, and a little earlier if you ask. This can give you more time to think and act before he attacks you.
He may ignore you, and not answer at all, continuing to move in.
Here is a powerful tactic...
What could you say that would interrupt their focused intent, confuse them, and force them to re-think their attack?
They are a predator, intently focused on their prey- you. They are single-minded, and intensely decided to carry out their mission.
Here’s what you can do to turn their attention off of you, and cause them to turn their attention inward, toward themselves, and completely short circuit their mission.
As you are confronted (this could also be done if a criminal element is still approaching you, before you are confronted), and they grab you, or make their demands, become visibly relaxed (although you will be faking it), look them right in the eye, and say, “Hey, don’t I know you?”
At this point they’re now wandering, “What’s going on? Do I know this person? Do they really know me?”
Then, with a smile of recognition, say, “Sure, I know you (slowly and warmly). How have you been?”
They are now searching their mind for any recollection of remembering who you are and how you know them.
Remember, they don’t want to be recognized or remembered.
Now, there you are, relaxed and smiling, as if getting re-aquainted with an old friend.
Now, instead of your mind panicking, searching for an answer to “What do I do?”, you have taken control of the situation. They are now the one whose mind is racing, wandering “What do I do?”
So, you offer them a solution that you both can live with.
You look them in the eye, and say, “It sure was good to see you again (smile), but, I really am running late and have to get going.” “Take care”. And proceed to walk right past them, or turn and walk quickly away.
Leaving them wandering, “What is going on? What just happened?”
Note: An attacker typically knows exactly what they want. They are desperate and at risk. They will typically be quick, talk fast and cruel, be nervous, and want to take care of business and get out of there as soon as they can.
The longer it takes them to complete their mission, the more likely they are to get caught. They know this.
So, by psychologically interrupting their plan, you confuse them.
This whole process should only take a few moments. Don’t drag it out. Don’t give them time to think it through. Confuse them, and quickly walk away.
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Note: The above described situation is one of many possible scenarios. This person could be on drugs, drunk, or have no conscious. And, may disregard your attempt to connect psychologically with them. At all times you should be aware that they may continue the assault. And, you should be prepared to strike as they move in.
My training tells me to check my suroundings for escape routes, bring your hands up not so much to a gaurding possition but with open palms facing attacker aproximately chin high, never losing sight of would be attacker speak clearly and directly, Hey brother I dont want or need any trouble I dont mean to offend. This will give you some control of the situation until you decide to attack!! When attacking strike strong and decisivley you want to get home to your loved ones
Well, in a situation like this, I would probably pull out my wallet and hold it in the direction of the assailant with my elbow bent and keep my other arm ready to do a palm strike, but look scared and alarmed as doing so, keeping the wallet at a close enough distance to exucute the attack, but then again, this would all depend on the attackers aproach to the situation, and if they where armed with a weapon such as a knife. I would probably try to use a talking defence by using deceptive talk and then use a technique that is flexible and easy to follow up. Thanks Sifu.
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Well, given the situation of this kind. If i felt that some one was following me, or in front of me, the first thing is to make eye contact, that lets them know that you have seen them and show no fear this is a fight, or flight moment for most people,ladies if you have your keys out in your hand this is a good wepon to use to the face or hands if an attack is emenant, to draw blood to the forehead above eye is enough to make him think more, if he wants to continue with the attack and that he would be scared for life and would be easly picked out in a crowed,as a danger to other ladies.
scream or shout before you strike this will shock his system and give you the oppertunity to strike to a vital areas, as groin, knees,or face.
Perhaps it is the Aikidoka in me, but I would relax my body and create space by subtly moving into a hanmi stance and raising my hands palm out. The stance looks submissive -almost as if to say through body language "I'm not looking for trouble"- but anyone who is familiar with Aikido would recognize the stance as our way of saying "dude you're barking up the wrong tree."
I would engage in nonthreatening, nonaggressive verbal communication to difuse the situation. The exact verbal tactics I would use would depend on the situation -as in why does John Doe want to engage me in combat. If it is some random act of violence, then the person's has already attacked me in their mind, so I will not play any games. If it is a friend or an aquaintance who looks to engage then I would choose to sort out the details and use physical aggression as an absolute last resort.
I would look at Verbal Self Defense as being able to rise to the specific situation and intellegently engage the aggressor in verbal conflict (to pacify not to provoke). An obvious "I'm not looking for trouble," "Is there some other way of settling this," etc. are practical templates to keep in the back of your mind.
similar to what the last guy has said, but first i would say to the attacker:
"for Gods sake mate, shut up, lets go and have a pint, you'd probably kick my backside anyways."
and if this doesnt make the guy back off then i would take action, using taisabaki (body evation) then strinking to his eyes, throat, whatever target area that disables the fight insantly.
I always thought that slowly backing up and letting them come in to me would give me the best option to react.
How can I get an orange uniform like yours? I was appointed to Roshi and I cannot find one that is not straight up a monk robe> \\
Thank you
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